On sadness and tears
Bad things happen. Try as you might to avoid it, people get hurt, things get taken away, others are mean, friends die.
Yet, it is not the possibility that something might disrupt the harmony of our lives which scares me. It is the fear of not crying afterwards that I always find troubling.
I’ve read that crying releases endorphins into the body, helps both with blood pressure, and cardiovascular problems, and is the ultimate stress reliever.
Still, it is not the fear of not benefiting from these advantages that I am worried about. Worst yet, what if the sadness is just too big to translate into crying?
If you too share my fear, worry not, for when the time comes you’ll cry your eyes and soul out, and still have some leftover tears for later.
The only comfort I now (after the first couple of crying series have ended) find is to know that I have truly and exhaustively enjoyed every moment of the time I was given to spend with my loved one.
You might read these words and judge them as repetitive of something you’ve heard before, and empty of meaning.
If they are repetitive, it is because they are true. And only if you do not take them into consideration and do not apply them, will they become empty.
Anything that you now consider to be simple, will save your broken soul when it’s all over. A hug, a kiss, and a photo of someone you love are all you need.
Because showing your love will never go out of fashion.
This one’s for my oldest and most loyal friend, my beloved cocker Blacky ♥
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Aww I am so sorry babe,I never had such a lovely dog, but I completely understand your pain:(
You have all my love and support for your lost precious friend♥
So sorry for you.It’s quite impossible to replace friends like him..Be strong.
You are one of my biggest inspiration and i really love your blog.
I also had this Black Friend. His name was Vigour. It has been about ten years now and still, out of nowhere, I start crying. Keep your good memories in mind.
I’m so sorry, I know how you feel, I had a dog – my best friend too, and I think of him all the time.
Imi pare rau,desi nu sunt o iubitoare de animale cred te simti groaznic:(
ohh i am sorry
I’m sorry
My condoleances, and rest assured he is in a far better world now.
Thank you my dears, it really means a lot!
*and it’s a she
Oh, Ioana, I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how quickly pet (and dogs in particular) become a huge part of your life and how painful it is when they pass away. I’m sure you gave her a wonderful life though, and that she’s left you lots of happy memories x
aww, so sorry for your loss girl! big hug…
Ioana, I am so sorry for your loss. We can feel the pain through your words. I will pray for you to be strong.
Teodora
I am really sorry for your loss Ioana!
My little bichon is the love of my heart… so I kinda understand your sadness. But you must be strong and keep the good memories in mind.
I am so sorry about your Blacky
I understand what it is to lose a pet, it feels awful indeed. I know he was more than a pet, he was a friend. He was so cute!
I’m so sorry to hear about Blacky and I know that feeling so well.I also lost my cocker, named Blacky as well, a few years ago. She was almost nine years and she was the best thing that happened in my life.
I’m very sorry for your, it’s one of the saddest things to happen when a pet passes away
Oh, I’m so sorry for you. Losing an animal is so freaking hard. Your dog was so beautiful, wow. Rest in peace!
I`m so sorry to hear about Blacky…
Be strong and keep your chin up !
Best wishes
-xx
<3 Imi pare rau, inteleg prin ce situatie treci, animalele de langa noi se umanizeaza si le consideram "sufletele" :) Uite, poate te ajuta: http://christinekane.com/on-losing-a-beloved-pet/ cu drag :)
Oh hun, I know exactly how this feels. Our cat was killed last spring and we cried and cried and cried for weeks. Friends started to feel we were weird, but apart from just missing him we also knew a certain harmony we had all together was lost.
Blacky looks like a really wonderful dog. The tears will cease sometime, but the memories won’t. X
Oh no. I’m so so sorry. I can’t imagine how horrible a loss of a dog would be. I’m not looking forward to the day I know that feeling. Take care
Imi pare rau.. Stiu ca un animalut ajunge in timp un prieten… Cand a murit cainele nostru-si nu este vorba despre un caine de casa, ci unul pe care il aveam in curte-eu si familia mea am plans ca dupa un prieten drag.
Alina de la revista MallMania
I’m sorry for your dog.:( He was such a lovely dog.
I am sorry for your lost and I emphatize with you, because my love, Cora, also a 13 year spaniel cocker died this Christmas. I feel her every day near me. May our little friends meet in heaven and look after us from over the clouds.
Really saddened for your loss. I understand what you feel.
i m sorry for your loss, i really know how it feels…
carissima, anche Lilla non c e’ piu’………..complimenti per il tuo blog, la tua prof Paola
oh, so sad hugs to you for losing your dear blacky from this physical world, but blacky’s spirit will soar through you perhaps making you smile through tears.
to be honest, i never wanted to write you a comment on this post. because the minute i saw it i remembered my old post in honour of my bibi. and still, right now, writing you, makes me a bit sad and makes me remember things.
i know we should learn to move on, but doesn’t it feel hypocrite?
i know my comment isn’t about the fabulous and pretty things you show and write about here, but i just wanted to let you know that since you first shared this post i thought about it and i understand your heart.
hope you are now a little more in peace with the idea.
i am trying that every single day and it is still hard.
it may be considered lame since it’s not human being, but i bet it felt maybe even more like one.
dearest,
a dreamer.
Lo siento mucho. Mi amigo blacky murió en 2010 a los 15 años y medio de edad. Se parecía mucho a tu amiga. Primero lloras porque se ha muerto, después lloras porque a tí te falta tu amigo a tu lado. Han pasado casi dos años que murió, y si he leído lo que escribiste es porque aún busco su nombre. Yo nunca olvidaré a quien tan feliz me hizo, y tu nunca olvidarás a quien tan feliz te hizo. Intenta recordar los momentos que felices que viviesteis. Tienes que ser fuerte porque con el tiempo te darás cuenta como Blacky te ayudaba a superar los malos momentos. Ahora no tendrás a tu amigo incondicional que siempre estaba feliz de verte llegar. Se fuerte y disfruta los buenos momentos que lleguen… Así lo querría tu Blacky.
(lo siento, mi inglés es muy malo)